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The Four Phases Of Divorce

A couple coming to the realization that their marriage is not working and considering divorce should be made fully aware of the steps of the divorce process and how it will affect them before, during, and after the fact. There are four stages in a divorce that all couples deciding to end their relationship should become familiar with in order to face their new life head-on.

Accept the Divorce

Coming to the realization that the marriage truly is over may be a shock to some people, but can be a blessing to others. If you are in the former group, helplessness and fear are common emotions experienced at this stage following your divorce. It is also common to experience thoughts of ways you may have been able to save the marriage, such as reconciliation or counseling. However, rather than concentrate on the what-ifs, it is best to instead concentrate on what’s to come.

Consult An Attorney

This is where your divorce attorney will help you. Your legal consultation will include detailed discussions regarding court or hearing procedures, proper court etiquette, reason(s) for the divorce, situations that your spouse’s attorney may use against you, etc. The purpose of the consultation is to establish goals that will assist you in the courtroom. Your attorney will definitely be an invaluable ally when divorce proceedings begin, as he/she will do everything in their power to be an effective advocate for your case.

Amicably Settle Differences With Your Ex-Spouse

The divorce has now been finalized. Assets have been distributed and visitation rights regarding your children, should you have any, have been settled. However, if you do have children, then you and your ex-spouse are forever bound through them. It’s important not to make the situation about the two of you. Instead, settle your differences for the sake of your children. Remember, if you share joint custody, your spouse has the exact same rights to see his/her children as you do.

Moving On

The hardest is over, and now it’s time to start anew. If you are the former wife, it isn’t uncommon to retain your married surname if you wish. However, if you’d like to adopt your maiden name once again as a means of moving on, then it is easier to do so in a divorce. Seeking new residence if you are the spouse who has moved out may be difficult at first, but can help you to start over. Establishing new friendships or maintaining the ones made with your spouse will also help.

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We understand that divorce isn’t easy, but we will do our best to get you through it. Contact a divorce attorney from the law office of San Diego’s Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP, at 858-935-6211.

Mike's Top FAQs About Divorce

401K plans and divorce

401K plans and divorce

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If my spouse waives his right to my 401k plan, is there any circumstance that the court will still award him half or a portion of my 401k plan?

Answer

It is theoretically possible that a court can disturb an agreement to waive rights to property, but it is unlikely.  Courts will generally treat agreements as contracts, and thus are likely to strike an agreement only if it is unconscionable, induced by fraud, undue influence, duress or is against public policy. The judge cannot “reject,” nullify, or modify the provisions of an agreement merely because of his or her personal belief that a different arrangement should be made.

A marital settlement agreement, or MSA, can be used as a contract between spouses regarding the division of property that would otherwise be subject to community property laws. An MSA is subject to general contract laws, meaning that it can be found invalid if terms are against public policy (which includes, but is not limited to, (a) abrogating the statutory child support duty or impinging on the court’s jurisdiction to award child support, (b) limiting the court’s exercise of child custody jurisdiction, (c) “altering legal relations,” (d) “promoting dissolution,” and (e) providing for “fault”-based penalties at marriage dissolution) . The MSA can also be found invalid if entered into as a result of fraud, duress, menace, undue influence, or other factors which may make the agreement void or invalid.  Generally, an agreement such as the MSA is favored.  Hence, if there are no legal or equitable grounds for rescission or reformation it is binding on the parties and the court without express approval.

Posted in: Divorce, Family Law, Property Division

Can I get child support if I am not getting a divorce?

Can I get child support in California if I am not getting a divorce?

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I have been separated for two years from my wife, and my kids live with me. Can I get support without filing for divorce in California? We have not been living together since our separation, and even file taxes separately.

Answer

You do not need to file for divorce in order to get support. You will need to go through the court to obtain a child support order so you will have to file something. You can contact your local Department of Child support services office and they can help you get started. So while you do not have to file for divorce, you can file for a legal separation. The court needs to know that you two have in fact separated and there is one parent who is the full time provides and therefore in need of support.

Posted in: Child Support, Divorce, Family Law

Can I move out with my daughter before the divorce in California?

Can I move out with my daughter before the divorce in California?

Question Detail

My wife and I are going to divorce, but we have not filed yet. We are always fighting, and my daughter, who is 7, is very stressed with the way we are living. Can I move out with her, if I do not move far away and let him see her all the time? He is not happy with my choice. Is this legal?

Answer

Yes, you can move out with your daughter, assuming there are no court orders already in place regarding custody and visitation. It is important to maintain frequent and continuing contact between the child and the other parent. When the court makes custody and visitation orders they will look highly upon the parent who facilitated contact with the child and the other parent. It is important to make the transition as easy as possible for the child.

Posted in: Divorce, Family Law

Is there a statute of limitations on owed child support?

Question: Is there a statute of limitations on owed child support?

Question Detail

An ex lover of mine (20 years ago) just approached me out of nowhere about getting tested to see if her son is my child. He is 20 and I live in California. I am trying to find the statue of limitations for child support if indeed I take the test and the child turns out to be mine.

Answer

Unless the mother has made a claim for child support with the welfare office or her local Department of child support services office, they cannot now collect from you on child support. Since he is no longer a minor child now that he is emancipated, there are no obligations for child support. You can get tested to see if you are the father, but you do not have to.

If the state has paid out welfare for the child, and it turns out that you are the Father, there can be some potential liability there with having to pay back the state the money they paid out. If this is not an issue, then they cannot now ask you to pay for child support.

 

Posted in: Enforcement, Family Law, Spousal Support / Alimony

Is the opinion of the child ever taken into consideration in a divorce?

Is the opinion of the child ever taken into consideration in a divorce?

Answer

Typically the Courts will take the child’s opinion into consideration at the age of 12. There is no set age, it depends on the maturity level of the child. If a child is of sufficient age and capacity to form an intelligent preference to custody the court can take it into consideration. It is important to note that all judges will rule for what is in the child’s best interests whether it be for the mother or the father.

Posted in: Child Custody, Divorce, Family Law

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