Uncategorized (3)Your Child’s Well-Being During And After Divorce
Your Child’s Well-Being During And After Divorce
It’s easy to forget that during a divorce, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse are not the only ones dealing with the termination of your marriage. Your children are thrown into a situation where they may feel that they are placed in the middle of two arguing parties and are forced to choose a side. This can bring about feelings of guilt, panic, and uncertainty. They may ask themselves questions such as:
- If they don’t love each other anymore, do they still love me?
- Are they separating because of something I did?
- Do they still want me in their lives?
- Will they hate me if I want to live with mom/dad?
The younger the child, the more likely he/she is to not fully understand the situation and may or may not express their feelings and confusions through emotional responses and outbursts, depending on the child.
What Can I Do As A Parent?
As a parent, it can be difficult to explain to young children or even teenagers what the situation between yourself and your wife/husband is and how the family will change from that point forward due to the impending divorce. However, their feelings of helplessness or anger may be eased through one or more of the following:
- Explain to your children that although you and your spouse are divorcing, your love for them will not change
- Avoid speaking ill of your ex-spouse in front of the children
- Ensure that your ex-spouse is involved in your children’s lives as much as possible
- Seek counseling for the child if behavioral issues should arise or if you think they would benefit from someone to talk to
It’s important to understand that there is no guarantee that your child will accept the divorce immediately; however there are definitely things you can do to help make the situation as painless and understandable as possible.
Divorce is not always easy, but the San Diego divorce attorneys from the law office of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP, are committed to making the process as quick and simple as possible. Contact one at 858.935.6211.
Changing Your Name After Divorce
Often, when two people get married, the woman takes the last name of the man. But what happens when the couple decides it is best to go their own separate ways? For many women, it may be desirable to return to their maiden name. Others are unsure they want to make that change. It is up to each individual to make the decision that is best for them.
If you are considering changing your name after a divorce, the San Diego divorce attorneys of Fischer & Van Thiel LLP can assist you with this process. There are many different decisions and changes that are required by divorce, and our San Diego divorce attorneys are prepared to provide you with quality legal support. Contact our offices today at 858-935-6211 for more information about our services.
Things to Consider When Contemplating a Name Change
Because divorce can cause high emotions and stress, it may be best to rationally consider what it requires to get your name changed and how a name change will affect you and your family. We suggest that you consider the following when preparing for a name change:
- Is changing your name important for moving on after a divorce?
- What is your preference in names?
- Is keeping your married name important for your professional career?
- What name will your children be using?
- Are you willing to go through the process of changing your name?
If you are undecided on whether or not a name change is the right decision, considering these questions may help you figure out what’s best for you.
Divorce can be a difficult time and you may be facing serious life changes in the future. The San Diego divorce attorneys of Fischer & Van Thiel LLP are here to assist you during this time with reliable legal counsel. If you are looking for professional and experienced representation for your divorce, contact us today at 858-935-6211.
Sharing Custody over the Holidays
Making a new custody arrangement work is difficult for everyone involved. This can be particularly true during the holidays, when people are stressed and emotions tend to run high. If you are concerned about making it through the first holiday season after a divorce or separation, it may help you to know that many families have faced the same challenges. It may seem hard, but you can make it.
Unfortunately, one challenge that many divorced parents face over the holidays is unfair behavior from their former spouses. If you need help protecting your right to spend time with your children, call the San Diego child custody lawyers of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP at 858-935-6211.
We hope you find the following tips useful for whatever occasions your family celebrates. If you have any questions about your rights and responsibilities in shared custody matters, our experienced San Diego shared custody attorneys are here to help.
Plan ahead of time. Ideally the custody arrangement you have in place will include provisions for sharing the holidays. If not, you and your ex-spouse need to make these arrangements as soon as you can.
Try to arrange contact with both parents. Some families prearrange a time for the non-custodial parent to call his or her children, while others spend occasions like Christmas Day or Passover together. However you arrange it, try to let your kids get in touch with their other parent on special occasions.
Focus on your children’s feelings. If you will not have custody over the holidays, do not complain about your ex-spouse or discuss how bad you feel with your kids. If the kids will be with you, try to arrange a simple and pleasant celebration. Do not force happiness on them, though; let them know it is okay if they feel sad or angry.
With some preparation and patience, getting through the holidays is possible. Just remember that while things are different now, the holidays can still be enjoyed.
The San Diego child custody lawyers of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP can help you through the complexities of divorce and joint custody. Contact us at 858-935-6211.